Questions & Answers

The answers to the most commonly asked sexual questions

Women’s Sexual Pleasure
How can I find my G-Spot?
What is female ejaculation?
What is the Pubococcygeus muscle?
What is the best vibrator to use?
Tips on using a vibrator
How can I have better orgasms?
Women and masturbation: how important is it?
What is vaginal fisting?
My partner is bisexual: what issues do I need to be aware of?
Pregnancy, menopause and surgery: how can I recover my sexuality?

Men’s Sexual Pleasure
How can I stop premature ejaculation?
How can I deal with impotence?
Men and masturbation: how important is it?
Does penis size count?
Is orgasm and ejaculation the same thing?

Pleasure for All
Anal pleasure: what’s it about?
What are the do’s and dont’s of piercing?
Tips on anal pleasure
Sexual challenges: dealing with a disability
A word about safe sex

About these Q & As

Pleasurespotting: the answers to the most commonly asked sexual questions

I have advised women and men on their sexual pleasure for many years and I always marvel at the multi-faceted and complex nature of erotic issues. Many people come from a trauma base around sexuality, with backgrounds of sexual abuse and disempowerment, however we do not have to be stuck in this place. No matter what was experienced in the past you can move beyond it. While you must acknowledge past pain in order to heal, you also need to learn new ways to develop yourself and have fun. Women are great at nurturing other people, but often do not express that same degree of nurturance to themselves. Men can often be good at giving help, but find it very difficult to ask for help.

To find out what is the sexual truth for ourselves, we need to do our own individual emotional and body work and also to educate ourselves about sexuality, which is still widely misunderstood. Often a visit to the doctor does not answer your questions on female ejaculation, anal pleasure or how to have a better orgasm. Women’s magazine articles on ‘sex tips’ are often very simplistic in their approach, leaving out the key questions you would like answered.

I created The Pleasure Spot because it was the sort of place that as a woman I wanted to visit. I had been to women’s sex shops in the USA, UK and Europe and found them inspiring. On my return to Australia I visited Sydney’s sex shops and found them not only uninspiring but an insult to women’s sexuality. So I set up the mail order side of my business, specifically sourcing and designing products for women. It offered good quality products and a confidential service. Later I expanded the business into a shop where products are sold, courses held and individual counselling is done.

Women love the non-intimidating environment of my shop, a place where they can ask questions without being judged and where they can be confident that the information they are given is correct. Every woman and man has a different sensual journey, however I have found many similar questions are raised about body issues, sexual response and what is ‘normal’. Here are the questions I have been asked most frequently, in individual sessions, group workshops and by customers in The Pleasure Spot.

Jo-Anne Baker