Relax your breath, allowing yourself to sigh a few times. Did you know that your breath is the key to allowing yourself to relax and have good orgasms?
Pulse the vibrator back and forwards on your genitals, at the same time moving your pelvis. If you bend your knees you will find a gentle rocking motion will take place. If you want to have more fun try doing your Kegels at the same time.
Experiment with different positions. You do not just have to lie only on your back, you can use a vibrator in all the varied positions you have sex in.
You may find that as you become more excited you may want to insert a vibrating or non-vibrating dildo, which will give you a full feeling. There are a wide variety of these on the market. I have found silicon dildos are the best because they are flexible and warm and retain body heat.
Using a vibrator will also help you to charge your body with sexual energy. A great technique is to pulse a vibrator back and forward on your genitals, at the same time as moving your pelvis. If you bend your knees you will find a gentle rocking motion will naturally take place.
Please remember if you share your vibrator or sex toy to always put condoms on them. Also if you use the one sex toy, alternating between the vagina and the anus, you must use a condom on it and change this if you are going from your anus to your vagina. It is essential that no bacteria from the anus enter the vagina as this can lead to a nasty vaginal infection. It is also vital that you communicate with your partner and share how the sex toys feel and what turns you on.
Although Juliet had always been a sensuous person she had never had an orgasm, either alone or with a partner. She had read many sex manuals and done many exercises to help her become orgasmic but had not been successful and she came to my shop to see if a vibrator could help. We discussed the various products available and she decided to purchase a Japanese vibrator with a clit tickler and a butterfly-shaped vibrator. She loved the toys and found that the strong consistent pressure of the clit tickler produced an orgasm every time. “I had to make a long car trip and decided to take my new sex toys with me and experiment. I wore the butterfly-shaped vibrator under my clothes and put the other vibrator in my bag. It was the most exciting drive I have ever done! At one stage I got so turned on I had to pull over into a darkened side street, get out my Japanese vibrator and go for it with both hands”.
After she had bought the sex toys Juliet asked her partner, Patricia, if she minded if they introduced the vibrator into love making. Patricia was supportive. “Juliet was very honest to bring the issue up and not just hide the sex toys in a drawer. Although the idea of using sex toys with a partner was new to me, I thought if she was brave enough to talk to me about it I should not close my mind to us using sex toys together. It turned out to be a fantastic experience and has really enhanced our relationship.”
Samantha I became friends after she bought her first vibrator at my shop and came back to tell me how it had changed her life. She was in her early 40s and had recently split from her husband and wanted to be able to look after herself sexually rather than relying on a partner. “I have become sexually confident now because I have tapped into my inner power, which has helped me in non-sexual situations as well. I realise I am a strong and resourceful woman. I love the fact that I can satisfy myself, this has increased my self esteem and the fun I have in my life. People often ask what’s happen to me, and I just smile. I have recently met a new man and he finds the vibrator lots of fun as well”.