Fisting is the process of putting all the fingers of your hand into a woman’s vagina and then when these are inside her forming a fist. This is a very intense experience and for so it is important that there is a significant level of emotional and physical trust between partners. There is no such thing as too much lubricant when fisting and it is best to use a thick one which sticks heavily to your hand. The traditional lubricants used for medical examinations are best and can be bought at a chemist or drug store. Apply it liberally and keep on applying it throughout lovemaking, remembering to cover the whole outside of your hand and down to your wrist. Your nails need to be short and well manicured and you need to keep talking to your partner and letting her direct you. If she is uncomfortable, or feels any level of pain, slow down, remove your hand, take some time out and (if she wants) try again. Do not rush. The first time you are fisted the sensations are very unusual and can be very scarey, many women feel emotional and may cry during or after this type of lovemaking.

Do not make a fist and try to put it inside her. Begin with your middle finger and gradually increase to the three middle fingers, if that feels good, and you have checked with your partner, put the little finger inside her. Constantly check in with your partner. Slowly rotate your hand, pushing gently in and out. If necessary withdraw and apply more lubricant. Then gently put each of the fingers back inside her in turn. Eventually push your thumb in, which should be tight against the rest of your hand. Do not try to insert your hand in in one go. Push your hand in at a slight angle, watching what is comfortable for your partner. You will feel muscle resistance and you might have to move a bit to get your whole hand in, this is alright as long as your partner does not feel any pain. After your hand is inserted fold your fingers into a fist, you might find that you do this naturally.

Your partner may wish you to move their hand slowly around inside, slowly in and out, part way in and out or  may wish you to hold their hand still. Remember to ask what she likes as you go along. It is good at this time to combine fisting with clitoral stimulation, either with your other hand, or with a vibrator. If she orgasms you will feel an amazingly strong muscular contraction. When you are removing your hand do so very slowly, first unfurling the fist, then slowly pulling your hand out. It is important that you do not hurry. It might take a number of attempts at fisting get it right, so be patient if it does not work the first time. Fisting is not for everyone and the fantasy of being fisted may be very different to the reality. Do not be disappointed if you find that it is too uncomfortable.